The Church has hosted a number of face to face interviews before, but last night was the first one for young single adults. While the youth were not the intended audience this time, that does not mean the advice given does not apply to them as well.
Many of the questions asked last night had to do with marriage, and specifically how one can prepare for it
. One suggestion Elder Holland gave was to read D&C 4. He commented how missionaries should be very familiar with this section, because it talks about missionary work. He then went on to explain that this section can also apply to preparing for marriage. He suggested substituting the words the word “marriage,” or as I thought “the new and everlasting covenant.” for “work” or “missionary work.”
After the face to face, I went home and read this scripture the way Elder Holland suggested. When I read it this way, it changed my whole perspective of marriage and how to prepare for it.
I think this idea would make a wonderful Personal Progress experience. In each value (except virtue), the girls are allowed to personalize up to two of the additional value experiences, instead of completing the ones offered.
This experience would be great for Divine Nature, Individual Worth, or any other value the Young Women leaders approve.
The ideas I have below are just suggestions. Please use them however you like. I thought this idea brought up by Elder Holland made a wonderful jumping off point for a Personal Progress experience, but you do not have to follow my ideas word for word.
Below, I wrote out D&C 4 (don’t worry, it is short; only 7 verses!) and placed the word “marriage” or “the new and everlasting covenant” where the word “work” or “service” were. You can use this a you complete one of the ideas below, or your own.
Compare marriage to missionary work.
- Read the original D&C 4, and then read D&C 4 with the substitute words suggested by Elder Holland.
- Answer the following questions (or others you think of):
- Why is serving the Lord with all your heart, might, mind, and strength important for missionary work? Why is it important for marriage?
- How does missionary work bring “salvation to his soul?” How does it bring “salvation to his soul” in marriage?
- List the qualities in verse 5. How do these qualify someone for a serving a mission? How do they qualify someone for marriage?
- How can you have “an eye single to the glory of God” when serving a mission? What about marriage?
- Record your thoughts in your journal. Discuss what you learned with a parent or leader.
Preparing for marriage
One way to prepare for marriage is to stay worthy of it.
- Read D&C 4 and think about your future home and family. How can this scripture help you prepare to be a mother and wife? How can it prepare you to make and keep sacred covenants in the temple?
2.Choose one quality found in this scripture and strive to develop it for a certain amount of time (2 or 3 weeks, 1 month if you so desire).
3. In your journal explain how it will help you now and as your future role of wife and mother.
4. Record your progress in your journal.
5. At the end of your allotted time bear your testimony and/or discuss with a leader or parent what you learned.
Learning the importance of marriage
The mutual theme last year was D&C 4:2. Hopefully it should be familiar to you by now.
- Memorize D&C 4:2 and then memorize it substituting “the new and everlasting covenant of God” for “the service of God.”
- Read a General Conference talk or scriptures about the importance of marriage.
- How can marriage help us “stand blameless before God at the last day?”
- How can you put “all your heart, might, mind and strength” into preparing for marriage and marriage itself?
- Write in your journal what you learned about marriage and why it is important.
- Using D&C 4:2 as your guide, make a plan to keep yourself worthy of the marriage covenant you will one day make.
Wrapping it Up
These are just a couple idea I had, but I know there are more.
What do you think of this advice given by Elder Holland? Is it helpful?
How would you use his idea to create a Personal Progress experience? What about a project?
I would love to hear what you think. Leave a comment below and tell me any ideas which pop in your mind.